Sacred Circle

I'm certain we've all gone through times when our group of friends has shifted. We might have even thought, "Wow, we'll be friends forever!" or "That's my ride or die." I'll be the first to admit my own naivety. Often, we say these things due to misunderstood loyalty, unrealistic/unspoken expectations, or a sense of obligation to maintain long-term relationships. I'm not suggesting this is true for you, but in some groups, the essence and purpose of sisterhood can be distorted and based on self-serving interests (i.e., fleshly desires).

Is your circle sacred or common?

What does it mean to be sacred? It means to be set apart, holy, dedicated to God's purposes. In other words, NOT FOR COMMON USE. Is it purposeful or purposeless? Is it ripening your fruit or does it leave you fruitless? These are vital questions we have to ask ourselves quite often. Let's be clear, it's not about get all you can, while you can from relationships, but it is more about what you can give. Is it peace, joy, love, patience, grace, wise counsel, etc? A common circle is always looking for what they can get from you versus what they can give to you. HEY! Don't be a doormat, create realistic boundaries and expectations, and remember everything must be rooted in LOVE, the love Christ desires for us to display.

Who you surround yourself with matters! I know it all too well, in a sacred way. For years, I chose to keep my sister circle very tight. I treaded lightly with whom I shared information with, who I allowed in my house, & who was able to see the REAL me. I pinched off a little of myself to certain people for years. Not knowing that the very women who came knocking, were assigned to my life in various seasons. They were planted intentionally by the Lord, not just to get to know me and hang out but to grow with me. They were not for common use and neither was I. Today, these women know ME, the me God created me to be. They truly love me, correct me, fight for me (in prayer that is, we left our worldly ways behind), cry with me, and laugh with me. I am very grateful to God for his holy ghost set up. If I had chosen a common or familiar circle, I don't know where I would be spiritually or even mentally. They are to me what I am to them. It is a give - give type of love.

So my sisters, what are you waiting on? Will your community of sisters be perfect? Absolutely not, but if your circle is founded and built on the perfect One which is Jesus, it will be. Offense, gossip, isolation, jealousy, wicked words, pride and the like are all common to this fallen world. We are in this world but we are not of this world. In the kingdom of God our connections are held to a higher standard.

Stop settling, stop believing that longevity equals loyalty, and start seeking God for what is sacred and meaningful. Everything he does carries the weight of his glory. Trust him always and get ready for the love from your God ordained community you've been longing for. He knows what you need and it's not for common use.

Until next time,